Ah, the festive season. A time for twinkling lights, delicious food, and catching up with loved ones. But for many of us, it’s also a time for those comments - the ones that make you cringe, grit your teeth, or wish you could just disappear into your plate.

Whether it’s “Are you really going to eat all that?”, “Wow, you’ve filled out this year!”, or the classic “I could never eat that much and stay thin,” these little zingers can leave you feeling hurt, judged, or just plain irritated.

The good news? You don’t have to sit there feeling uncomfortable. Here are five ways to handle those awkward moments so you can enjoy the season without letting anyone ruin the moment.

1. Set Boundaries—Because You’re Allowed To

Let’s get one thing straight: you don’t have to engage in every conversation, especially if it makes you uncomfortable. Setting boundaries is a powerful way to protect yourself, and it doesn’t have to be confrontational.

For example, if someone comments on your weight or your plate, you could say:
“I’d rather not talk about that right now, thanks.”

Simple, firm, and effective. It tells the person where you stand without starting an argument. And then - if they don’t respect your boundary, that’s their problem, not yours.

2. Deflect With a Touch of Humour

Sometimes, a little humour can save the day. If you’re dealing with someone who loves to dish out unsolicited comments, a lighthearted response can totally shift the tone.

For example:

• “Don’t worry, I’m carb-loading for my next marathon - of Christmas movies!”

• “Ooooh the food police are out today - I’ll be sure to hand in my plate for an inspection!”

Humour works well because it keeps things playful while subtly signalling that you’re not interested in going deeper into the conversation.

3. Change the Subject (and Put the Spotlight on Them)

When in doubt, redirect! One of the easiest ways to sidestep a comment is to pivot to a completely different topic - and bonus points if you turn the attention back on the other person.

For instance:

• “Oh, enough about me. How’s work going?”

• “Have you been on any fun trips this year?”

This approach is especially handy because it doesn’t just stop the unwanted conversation; it also keeps things pleasant and flowing.

4. Empathise, But Stand Your Ground

Sometimes, comments come from a place of (misguided) concern. While it’s not your job to educate every family member on what’s appropriate, a little empathy can go a long way in softening your response.

You could say:
“I know you probably mean well, but that’s not something I want to talk about today.”

This approach acknowledges their intention (even if it’s misplaced) while making it clear that you’re not engaging further.

5. Know When to Excuse Yourself

Let’s face it: not every comment can be handled gracefully, and sometimes you just need to remove yourself from the situation.

If someone really won’t let up, it’s okay to excuse yourself. You could say:

• “Excuse me, I just need to check on something in the kitchen.”

• “I think I need a quick breath of fresh air - be right back!”

Stepping away gives you a moment to reset and avoid escalating the situation. Plus, it reminds you that you’re in control of your own space and energy.

Why This Matters

Navigating these conversations is about protecting your mental well-being and staying grounded in what really matters. You have every right to enjoy the festive season without feeling judged or uncomfortable.

Remember, people’s comments are often more about them than they are about you. So, whether you’re setting boundaries, cracking a joke, or simply walking away, know that you’re doing what’s best for you - and that’s something worth celebrating.

If you found these tips helpful, let me know! I’d love to hear how you’re handling awkward moments this festive season - and if you’re looking for more ways to feel confident and in control around food, reach out anytime.

Here’s to a joyful, comment-free holiday season!